Last week talked about author websites and I visitied some of yours.
Shah Kou commented
But, your recent posts make me uncomfortable. What if I don't want to show you (or anyone else) where I live? What if I don't want to Tweet, or blog? What if my own thoughts and my life is something I want to keep private. Not because I have anything sinister to hide, but because I am just a deeply private person. What would that mean to you if I wrote a compelling query, and had some solid sample pages?
You are conflating tweeting/blogging and talking about yourself.
They can be very separate things.
Talking about yourself is only an example of what to blog/tweet about because knowing something about a potential client is a plus for me. And connecting with writers as people is often a plus for readers.
But you don't have to talk about yourself at all. Or your dog or your cat or your pet dragon.
You don't have to let your wife kill you in Very Short Stories (a brilliant Twitter device created by John Frain)
What you have to have is a public presence of some sort.
Well, let me clarify: You don't have to.
But that choice makes you invisible, and invisibility is a non-starter for most agents these days, because the author is an essential part of promotion. And the avenues for promotion are social media.
People buy books they've heard about.
Yes this is a shift in the paradigm.
It's akin to when movies when from silent to talkies.
When basketball went from a ground game to an air game.
As to your question: "What would that mean to you if I wrote a compelling query, and had some solid sample pages?"
If I found you to be invisible, I might ask you about it.
If you tell me you don't want to have any social media presence at all, we're done.
There are a lot of authors with compelling queries and solid sample pages.
A good book is only the start of the battle.