I don't think this question has been asked before, and I may be totally off the mark in worrying about this, but it's been on my mind and I wanted to ask: is it a good idea to query while pregnant with one's first child?
I've been working a manuscript for years now and I feel as though I almost at the querying stage. My plan was to query this summer or fall. But I recently found out I'm pregnant (with my first baby) and am now worried that I'll send out queries, get responses, and they'll want revisions/ responses ASAP and what if that comes right when I go into labor or am in a new parent haze?
I know this is all super theoretical, because who knows, maybe no one will even bite. My first instinct is to say "I'll do whatever it takes, new baby or no!" but I've heard babies can be somewhat time-consuming, especially at first.
Do you think it's better to wait until the new parent-phase is over to even start querying? Or just do it, and deal with what comes after?
I'm also super worried about how having a baby is going to affect my writing time (makes me feel so selfish for even thinking it but there it is, I love my writing time, it's so important to me) so if there are other mother/writers out there I'd love to hear how they handled this at some point.
There's always a reason not to do something, particularly if that something is new, or scary.
I can think of ten reasons right now that I should go home and pet Her Grace, the Duchess of Yowl, rather than tackle this rather daunting project I have staring at me. Seven of those ten reasons will be utterly compelling.
You have a very reasonable and compelling reason to hold off querying. A new baby is a life changing event, and you don't have a clue what you're getting into.
As a writer, it's your job to keep your career on-track. Things can HAPPEN that get you off track, but just being uncertain about what lies ahead isn't something that has happened. It's fear.
Fear can kill your career.
Move ahead, and deal with things when they happen, rather than worrying about them ahead of time.
I've had clients whose lives have thrown them curve balls. We've managed to navigate those storms. Sometimes it meant the author stopped working for a while. Sometimes it didn't. But we didn't stop until we had to, not cause we were afraid of what was coming.
And huzzah for the new baby. I think Reid is a lovely name!