My evil plan to cause consternation in the world of writers appears to be taking shape nicely. Yet again, I've posted something that I thought was clear only to read the comment section and hear "bzzzzt! wrong-o!"
Back to email addresses for a moment.
When your queries come to me I see your email address: "firstname.lastname@example.org" or I see "amanda"
That looks pretty normal to me, and if it's in my in-box, Priscilla Queen of the Desert of no-response spam filter said it was ok too.
Good. That's what we want.
The trouble is when Priscilla has pursed her pruny lips and said "not so fast bucko."
Those emails stay in the spam filter until I wade in with a hook.
I don't open the emails. What I do is move my mouse over the address.
If I see "Amanda" but my mouse reveals "email@example.com" is the real sender I leave it IN the spam filter.
That seems obvious.
Where it gets tricky is if I see "Amanda" as the sender but the address is "firstname.lastname@example.org"
I don't open those either.
So, here's what you do. When you set up your email account and it asks for your name, put the name you want to use. Use that name consistently. And have it match the email that you're using. No "John Smith" name using "SnakesSlither@gmail.com" for an email address.
For most of you this isn't a problem at all. And if you're smart of course, you've got your own email account; you aren't sharing it with people. But if I see "MummyTheLush" as your name and your email address is "WholesomeFamilies@gmail.com" rest assured Priscilla and I have both sent you packing.
The account name, your name and the email name should all be reasonably identical. The key here is identical. They don't have to match your "real name;" they need to match EACH other.
So if you are one of ten thousand Annes in your family, maybe your email address is not AnneFlan@bakerybabes.com. Maybe it's AnneTheBaker@bakerybabes.com. The key is that the account name, the email name and the from name all say "AnneTheBaker" or something reasonably close so that when I'm looking at it, I intuit that yes, you are Anne the Baker.
You don't need your own domain name; I open email from gmail, hotmail, aol, comcast, verizon and a host of others.
What I don't open is email that looks like someone is trying to conceal the true name of the sender.
I'm not trying to be difficult here.
In the era of "no reply means no" you want to make damn sure your email didn't get waylaid by Priscilla or others of her ilk.