I have pondered this before, but it's been eating at me. When someone makes a comment that is inappropriate, how would you like the community to respond (and by that I'm asking for me personally)?
I tend to retreat and go silent, which also seems to be the response from most Reiders. In part it's because I'm an introvert and in part it's because I can't be sure if the person is ignorant or deliberately stirring the reef (if it's the latter I don't want to give them air time and create a bigger kerfuffle, but if it's the former then education might be a good thing). I assume you'll deal with things behind the scenes (privately) you aren't happy with (as you've said you've done in the past), or snap at the group in general to remind us about behaviour and rules. Is that a correct assumption? Would you prefer the community (ie me) to be more outspoken or to continue to retreat?
Well mostly I want whoever is making inappropriate comments to stop.
But of course, inappropriate is often in the eye, or keyboard, of the beholder.
And the most flagrant offenders are often the folks who have no clue they've offended anyone.
Here's what we all need to remember: this blog attracts all kinds and stripes of people with opinions that are left of center, right of center, holy, unholy, wrongheaded, ignorant, and generally malodorous. And that's just me.
One of the key elements of being an effective writer (which is something I hope EVERYONE here wants to be) is to remember your audience.
And your audience is not you.
Your audience is often times the anti-you.
If you keep that in mind, and re-read your comment with a critical eye before you post, hopefully we'll all be able to happily splash in the Shark Tank.
That said, I'm not going to land on people for making inappropriate comments. This is not a safe place, there are no trigger warnings. You come here, you're going to see some stuff you don't like.
And I'm going to ask you to either live with it, or address it calmly with absolutely no aspersions cast on character, especially when you're certain the other person is a total cretin.
The world is not our reflection, nor is it an easy place to live in.
The world would be a better place if everyone was like
Do you remember the book The Moon is a Harsh Mistress by Robert Heinlein? He created a world on the moon where civility was enforced by a pretty strict code of conduct including instant trial and disposition (out the airlock.)
But I'm not going to police the content of comments for anything other than accuracy about publishing, word count and frequency. Annoy or offend enough of your fellow readers though, and you'll find yourself being largely ignored. And the value of this blog is beyond my yammerings and rantings. The value of this blog is the community that has developed here. You might want to assess how much you value that if you say things just to stir the pot.