Once you've found your dream agent, how would you recommend trying to start a relationship with her? Twitter? Email? (And let's assume you can't afford to fly around the country for conferences)
This question makes me want to reach through the computer screen and turn off your computer before you do something really really stupid. Something you Can Not Recover From.
If you want to "start a relationship" with an agent you SEND A QUERY.
That's the only kind of relationship I'm looking for.
Now, as it happens, because I have this blog, I do have relationships with writers who are not clients. They made comments on the blog, or they entered contests, or in many cases, asked questions for the blog to address. In all cases you'll note that writer was simply contributing to the community here. Friendship with me was just a
If you mean you want to get to know an agent before you query: DON'T.
You'll come off as a stalker. Or stalker-y.
And guess what? I go out of my way to avoid that kind of writer. As do my colleagues.
You want to get rollicking conversation going amongst agents? Ask about the weird things authors do by trying to "make friends."
Here's what really happens:
A writer who introduces himself/herself on Twitter as a writer looking for an agent gets muted.
A writer who introduces him/her self on Twitter with "you are my dream agent" gets blocked.
A writer who retweets everything I say (up to and including things that make NO sense out of context) gets muted.
A writer who asks publishing questions on twitter gets ignored.
A writer who emails anything but a question for the blog or a query gets discarded.
And is this time to review why you setting your sights on a "dream agent" is not not not a good idea?
Now if I didn't understand the question correctly and you meant to ask how to get off on the right foot with an agent who has signed you there's always one correct answer: