I finished and polished an urban fantasy novel some time ago and queried for a while, getting a couple bites for fulls and partials but nothing panned out. My novel features a genderfluid character in the lead role, and a part of me worries that might be a turn off for some agents, despite hearing so much about people wanting diverse books. I fear that this is one of the reasons agents aren't willing to touch the novel.
Another worry on my mind is the fact that I am also genderfluid, and I write mostly under my female name. But that name doesn't match my legal name and I wonder if an agent would let something like this name and pronoun business with the author prevent them from offering representation.
I started querying under my male name, stating my preferred name as my pen name, which is female. Later I queried entirely under the pen name but stated in the query that I am genderfluid mostly so they didn't think I was just doing it for kicks. I live my personal and online lives as genderfluid, though my professional life still requires me to generally be male.
I realize this looks like a bigger mess than it probably is, but would you let something like gender confusion be a reason to shoot down a pretty good book?
Short answer: no
Longer answer: you know me well enough by now I hope to understand that NOTHING gets between me and a project I want. Not gender fluidity, not names, not location, not even threats from La Slitherina Herself.
In other words, it's not you, it's the book.
You've gotten some requests. They haven't progressed.
That tells me that something is wrong with the novel.
If you don't have a good crit group, or a tough-minded (but not vile!) beta reader, that's the first step.
The second is to get pro-eyes on it. A good writing class, an agent pitch session at a conference, or any other of a lot of other options is a good idea.
And a side note: you do NOT need to explain your genderfluidity in a query. You are who you are: a writer. Your name and gender are your business. Just tell me what you like to be called and let me how to make out the check. If it's important to you that you explain your name and genderfluidity, that's ok too. Just tell me what you like to be called and let me know how to make out the check!