I joined a author group on facebook over two years ago. I put my novel on free for one day and it hit #1 in US horror and #13 in NA and shared the news with the group. I've seen similar posts on there before and it was always welcomed.
Then I received an e-mail from the moderator
" Can you please reread the guidelines. Technically your post isn't allowed unless you hit the NYT and/or USA Today guidelines. I'm on vacation and waiting to see if the other admin decide to delete it. But if they delete it (verses you doing it), you'll end up on our warning list."
I tried to review them again, not remembering anything of the sort, but alas could not figure out how to do it on my phone. Plus I thought 'wow what a way to be supportive' it was worth getting placed on a warning list for, especially since I felt really slammed to the floor because of the remark.
Today I noticed I was no longer part of the group.
Maybe this email is a rant, I don't mean for it to be, but I'm wondering if this is something you've come across before. Up until now I was blissfully thinking the writers community was the most supportive bunch of people I've ever met.
If you want support, buy a truss.
Membership groups can be as fiercely parochial as any kind of self-selecting group, writers groups included. Nothing brings out the fangs more than success.
I belong to a lovely group called DorothyL. It's a listserve started more than 20 years ago, and the purpose is to discuss mysteries. The members are mostly librarians, mystery readers and the occassional ne'er do well agent.
There is a list as long as my nose of Forbidden Topics, because even this civilized, genteel group could not avoid coming to blows over: awards; POD; Harriet Klausner. And let's not even get started on blatant self promotion!
I know some people have flounced off the DorothyL list in a huff. It was kind of amusing to watch actually.
I'm not sure what they accomplished but maybe they felt better.
Here's the thing: all groups run on rules. The rules are enforced by the moderator. Some moderators are good at their job. Some are not.
The rules should be in a place that's easy to access, even from your phone.
You should get a warning before getting banned.
That said, it's not my group. I only make the rules here, not there.
I've seen some backbiting and downright vicioius behaviour in private groups (not on DorothyL at all ever) and heard of some other things said in author groups that shocked me to my shoes.
From the limited amount of information here, you've got two choices: ask to rejoin, or stay on the outside.
Only you can decide if the value of the group is worth asking to come back.
And now you know: any kind of "good news" announcement should be ok'd by the moderator in advance.