In a recent blog post about interacting with agents in social situations, you said that we writers should not mention to agents at conferences that we've queried them and been rejected, even if we mean only nice things by bringing it up.
Does that same rule apply to agents who've passed on the full?
I'll be attending a conference this fall with an agent I've never met before, who last fall read the full of my manuscript and sent me a kind pass. I'd love to introduce myself and express my thanks, and maybe get a sense of whether she'd like to see my next work. Still off limits?
It depends on when and how you are going to interact with AgentKindPass. If you see her casually at the conference (in the elevator, in the breakfast buffet line, after a panel) the social rules outlined in the previous post apply. These kinds of interactions are not biz. They are social.
IF however you have a pitch session or some private one on one time scheduled with her, you DO mention that her kind pass was helpful to you; that you've subsequently written another, better novel, and you look forward to querying her.
Notice you do NOT say "may I query you." If she's closed to queries or doesn't want to hear from you, she'll know how to tell you.
The difference here is the style of the meeting. One is social; one is business.
And while all social meetings have business undertones when you are at an event filled with publishing folks, you don't treat them like business meetings.
Does this clarify?