Thank you for being awesome. I imagine you get that a lot. People are thankful for your help, and it can be hard not to gush.
A chronic gusher myself, I often wonder how my appreciation is being perceived by its recipients.
And so, if I may, I'd love to know your thoughts.
See, there's this publisher. I've been following him for about two years. I love his passion and personality. He has incredible ethics and works hard for his authors. We've been in contact multiple times for various reasons, and there is no doubt in my mind that he is the one I want to publish my work.
I want to tell him how strongly I feel, yet I'm afraid of coming across as creepy or phony.
How much praise is too much? Does sincere flattery get old for your kind of wonderful?
Normally I delete all the nice things people say to me in emails before I publish their questions here. That's not to say I don't appreciate their compliments, I DO. I delete it because I think it would make everyone feel they had to start their question with some sort of praise, and that would remove any shred of sincerity from it.
The more specific you can be about what someone has done that helped you, the easier it is for us to feel it's sincere and not just idle flattery.
"I love his passion and personality" is more adulation than anything else
"He works hard for for his authors" is much more specific.
If you were to say "I want you to publish my work because you work hard for your authors" that's something that feels genuine.
"I want you to publish my book because I love your passion and personality" ....that feels like sucking up.
Sincere thanks never gets old.
So, tell the publisher what he does that makes you want to query him, and leave the gushing for fan letters to Tiger Beat.