I recently attended the KALE writer's conference where I participated in a pitching event. There I pitched my manuscript to Agent X who seemed highly interested, which made sense because it seemed to be something similar to other works she'd sold. She gave me her card and asked for pages.This is where I made my first mistake; I didn't ask if she replied to all, or how long I could expect it to take. On the other hand it was a pitch event so... argh.I got home, read the directions on her card carefully, and sent what was requested. However, one line did give me pause, 'put conference name in subject line.' I put "Kill All Lettuce Here Conference" spelled out exactly as written there. She only takes queries from conferences so I figured that made sense.But now I'm well past her normal response window, according to query tracker, and I haven't heard anything. She's already announced signing clients from the event, and I think she's requested fulls from others who were there. So I did a bit of research. That confirmed I got the email address correct and that I did comply with submission guidelines, sending no more or less than requested.Then, after a bit more digging, I found this on her MSWL page, "If she asks for your submission at an event... Put the name of the event in the email’s subject line or it will be auto-rejected."Cue oh crud moment. The writer's conference is usually abbreviated to KALE and I wrote it out all funny-like. (1) If a computer is doing the filtering and I didn't put in an approved name for the conference my email probably got routed to spam without a human ever setting eyes on it. Which brings me to my problem; how the heck do I go about nudging? For contacts the agent in question has the email address that may have already eaten my query and a twitter handle.(2) - Would it be polite to ask anything at all via twitter? That way I could be sure of her seeing it... along with about 15,000 other people.(3) - Plan B would be to slap KALE on the subject line of a nudge email and ask if they got the first one. However, if the 'tag' for that conference has been de-activated in the weeks since I would be poking an electronic email deletion-drone...(4) - Plan C would be to do plan B but re-send the whole query. Would that be better?This is driving me up the wall.She seemed excited by my description of the book and apparently loved every additional detail I offered. Her last remark before I got up was that there was a big market for stuff like what I'd described. She may just be very nice and a great actor, but if not I'd hate to miss even getting my work in front of her because of IT issues. (5) However, I'd also hate to commit some nudge faux-pas and get turned down because I'm a jerk, can't follow directions, etc.
You have made the classic mistake of assuming that agents have 36-hour days and respond to all inquiries in a timely fashion. Cue merry laughter here.
My guess is she's working her way through more than a few requests from that conference. Along with everything else she needs to do in a day and week.
As for your specific questions:
(1) The computer isn't sorting. When someone (including me) says it gets rejected instantly what it means is my eyeballs land on it; I see it's (any of my auto pass criteria); and, I put it in the trash bin.
There are certainly some things that I block at the source (ie it bypasses my inbox and goes straight to trash) but those are NEVER conference related because the chances of the sorting system screwing up are 100%.
What I block are email addresses or key words in a query that someone has sent me more times than I want to think about.
(2) Do this and die. I will personally come to your house and steal your dog, and bop you on the head with a bag of kale.
Never EVER use Twitter for follow up, questions on queries that an agent has or updates of any kind. Never.
(3) Query Agent X again, using KALE in the subject line and use her regular query address. But ONLY after another couple weeks. Give her a chance here.
(4) see above.
(5) no one is going to think that. You're not even in the ball park for asshattery.
You're just diving in to the query trenches is my guess. You don't have a lot of perspective or experience yet.
You sent one query to an agent.
She, on the other hand, got 62 queries and however many requested fulls. It's going to take some time.
Learn to pace yourself of you're going to expire of heart failure and that would be a Very Bad Thing.